Lama Surya Das in Awakening to the Sacred says: “Learning how to love is the goal and the purpose of spiritual life — not learning how to develop psychic powers, not learning how to bow, chant, do yoga, or even meditate, but learning to love . Love is the truth. Love is the light.”
Most of us place so much concern and worry around ‘finding the right partner’ (and more often than it finding the right partner by a certain date that our biological clocks seems to determines); that when it actually happens and we want to move forward with the relationship, we find ourselves unprepared.
For any relationship to evolve naturally into the next step, we need to become aware of own behavioural patterns from the start and learn how to integrate that person as well as being in a relationship into our lives. This integration takes place when we move forward steadily.
Maintaining balance as a relationship unfolds allows us to reflect on it objectively and helps to keep our fingers ‘on the pulse’. We are able then to gauge are feelings, emotions, and needs as well as those of our partner’s in a grounded , practical way and can respond to changes as and when they occur.
This also means we do not need to give up anything in order to maintain the person we found! Think of it like constructing a house: for a sound structure, you need to lay a strong foundation, and then move upwards one floor at a time (of course prefab buildings are another story)! (continued in right column).
